When we envy others we only envy some part of their lives. It is so easy to find the good things in other peoples lives and neglect the bad ones. We would like to have a “hand picked selection” of good things and then we find our-self depressed if it does not came about. You cannot find happiness until you envy others.
Don’t try to change things that are not in your control. Focus on what you can change.
People tend to think their happiness depends on other people and circumstances. We think if our parents/ children/ colleagues behave differently we will be happier. The truth is we can’t change them, but we can change our attitude and how we react. Those people who find happiness within themselves are generally more happy than those who want to find it in other people.
How to make our life better and happier?
We all have problems in life. We often struggle, feel unhappy, miserable or sad. Sometimes we feel disappointed, defeated and might thing our suffering will never come to an end. We want to have things: a better job, a nice home, a new car, or to have better status in the society. We struggle to get those things and feel unhappy if it is not possible.
On the other end we also feel happiness, joy, satisfaction and other positive emotions. There are really enjoyable moments in life, unfortunately they don’t last forever.
We are human beings and our behavior and emotions are quite complex. We just can’t always directly control or feelings. Despite it is not possible for most of us to be always happy without having a bad day, there are many different ways to make our life considerably better.