According to mayoclinic.org optimism and pessimism can affect many areas of our health and well-being. Positive thinking can help with stress management and even improve our health.
The effects of positive thinking and optimism on health can be the following: Increased life span, lower rates of depression, lower levels of distress, greater resistance to illnesses, better psychological well-being, better cardiovascular health and reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease, better coping skills during hardships and times of stress.
It’s unclear yet why people who engage in positive thinking experience these health benefits, one of the theories is that positive and optimistic people tend to live healthier lifestyles — they get more physical activity, follow a healthier diet, and don’t smoke or drink alcohol in excess.
‘All the world ‘s a stage, and all the men and women merely players. They have their exits and their entrances; And one man in his time plays many parts.’
(William Shakespeare As You Like it Act 2, Scene 7)
Most of the people has heard this famous quote from William Shakespeare before, but I don’t think many of us have ever thought that it is actually true. I mean not metaphorically. Literally the world is a stage, or a big live movie. Every person is a player and a spectator as well: we watch the things happening around as and we play our roles when it’s time.
What is the biggest proof? Think of it, at the end of one’s life, what is the biggest thing he or she created? The answer is: a story. A story where things happened. Meeting new people, visiting places, solving difficulties even the not pleasant ones sums up in a big story of his/her life.
You may ask now: so what? Why does it help me? The answer is: a lot. Looking to the life from this perspective will change everything. I’m sure you will look at life from a totally different point of view. I will explain in the further posts why.
If you are able to look at your life as a movie than you will be able to enjoy watching it instead of constantly worrying about the future. You can just sit down, relax and enjoy what you see at the moment instead of constantly working on a better future. When you watch a movie you can experience excitement, fear, happiness, love or any other feeling, but you will not worry too much, because it is just a movie at the end. In life we experience the same things, but cannot stand not to worry, because it is real, the bet is huge.
On the other hand you will have the freedom to play your role. You will have the freedom to do things, to try what you’d like. The job of an actor is to play after all.
I was 18 years old when I first heard from a motivation speaker that I can achieve anything in life. I didn’t came from a family where success, or money had an important role so couldn’t imagine that an ordinary guy like me can ever become rich, so that sounded quite interesting to me. I started to watch movies, read articles and books about how can I attract or manifest anything I want in my life, I watched also a lot of documentaries about the life of the super rich.
Than I decided to become a millionaire. I was certain it is possible within a few years. I visualized many times every day my new life as a millionaire and I couldn’t wait for it to become a reality. When I closed my eyes I saw the luxury home, nice car and trips around the world. I saw myself telling other people stories about how I became rich.
Self estimation has its own role in our lives. Sometimes we need confirmation that we move towards the right direction or there is a need for change. Our mind is programmed to monitor other people’s actions and compare it to ours. The problem arise when we over do it. We likely compare the worst of ourself to the best of somebody else, and that just makes us coming up short. Comparing ourself too often to the richest, smartest or luckiest people makes us think that we are not good enough, not smart enough or not worthy enough. That leads to anxiety or depression.
Alternatively we judge others and see ourself superior. We scoff at what others do and think we are much better or smarter. For example you work really hard and get a much better position with better salary. Than you see someone who was degraded because of his/her laziness or inabilities, doing a worse job for less money. It comes easy to look down to this person and consider ourself better. But does it make us happier? Maybe in the short term, but not in the long run. But why? Why we can’t just see ourself as the best person alive and be happy about it?
How to make our life better and happier?
We all have problems in life. We often struggle, feel unhappy, miserable or sad. Sometimes we feel disappointed, defeated and might thing our suffering will never come to an end. We want to have things: a better job, a nice home, a new car, or to have better status in the society. We struggle to get those things and feel unhappy if it is not possible.
On the other end we also feel happiness, joy, satisfaction and other positive emotions. There are really enjoyable moments in life, unfortunately they don’t last forever.
We are human beings and our behavior and emotions are quite complex. We just can’t always directly control or feelings. Despite it is not possible for most of us to be always happy without having a bad day, there are many different ways to make our life considerably better.