Stop negative thinking to reduce stress

According to mayoclinic.org  optimism and pessimism can affect many areas of our health and well-being. Positive thinking can help with stress management and  even improve our health.

The effects of positive thinking and optimism on health can be the following: Increased life span, lower rates of depression, lower levels of distress,  greater resistance to illnesses, better psychological  well-being, better cardiovascular health and reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease, better coping skills during hardships and times of stress.

It’s unclear yet why people who engage in positive thinking experience these health benefits, one of the theories is that positive and optimistic people tend to live healthier lifestyles — they get more physical activity, follow a healthier diet, and don’t smoke or drink alcohol in excess.

“Do not overrate what you have received, or envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind.”

“Do not overrate what you have received, or envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind.” Life balance and wisdom quotes

When we envy others we only envy some part of their lives.  It is so easy to find the good things in other peoples lives and neglect the bad ones. We would like to have a “hand picked selection” of good things and then we find our-self depressed if it does not came about. You cannot find happiness until you envy others.

Man is not worried by real problems so much as by his imagined anxieties about real problems

Man is not worried by real problems so much as by his imagined anxieties about real problems Life balance and wisdom quotes

There is a big difference between the real problem one faces and the imagined anxieties about this problem. People tend to overrate their difficulties and create imaginary problems in addition to real ones.  You have to make the question: do you really want to solve your problems, or just want to create more excuses?

I can’t give you a sure-fire formula for success, but I can give you a formula for failure: try to please everybody all the time.

I can't give you a sure-fire formula for success, but I can give you a formula for failure: try to please everybody all the time. Success and motivational quotes

Herbert Bayard Swope

You can not please everybody. If you try to do it, you will find yourself so busy with this task, that you will have no time to do what you really benefit from. Success is not measured by how other people are satisfied with you performance but how satisfied you are with your own life. People will never say you are perfect. Not because you are not, but because they don’t want you to be perfect.

Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it.

Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it. Quotes Success and motivational quotes
Many of us spend his/her whole life looking for success and never find it, while others achieve outstanding success without even define what success means.

Focusing  too hard only on “to be successful” will prevent to see the overall picture. Usually, successful people do not spend their time trying to find success, they are busy with their job and success find them.

The movie of life

‘All the world ‘s a stage, and all the men and women merely players. They have their exits and their entrances; And one man in his time plays many parts.’

(William Shakespeare As You Like it Act 2, Scene 7)

Most of the people has heard this famous quote from William Shakespeare before, but I don’t think many of us have ever thought that it is actually true. I mean not metaphorically. Literally the world is a stage, or a big live movie. Every person is a player and a spectator as well: we watch the things happening around as and we play our roles when it’s time.

What is the biggest proof? Think of it, at the end of one’s life, what is the biggest thing he or she created? The answer is: a story. A story where things happened. Meeting new people, visiting places, solving difficulties  even the not pleasant ones sums up in a big story of his/her life.

You may ask now: so what? Why does it help me? The answer is: a lot. Looking to the life from this perspective will change everything. I’m sure you will look at life from a totally different point of view. I will explain in the further posts why.

If you are able to look at your life as a movie than you will be able to enjoy watching it instead of constantly worrying about the future. You can just sit down, relax and enjoy what you see at the moment instead of constantly working on a better future. When you watch a movie you can experience excitement, fear, happiness, love or any other feeling, but you will not worry too much, because it is just a movie at the end. In life we experience the same things, but cannot stand not to worry, because it is real, the bet is huge.

On the other hand you will have the freedom to play your role. You will have the freedom to do things, to try what you’d like. The job of an actor is to play after all.

“When you find no solution to a problem, it’s probably not a problem to be solved, but a truth to be accepted.”

What is the difference between the ideal world in your mind and the real world you experience? We call this difference: a problem. We always want to solve our problems. Sometimes we don`t even realize what actually the problem is, we just want something better, something else.

To be not happy is a base of our human nature. Our mind is set to find things that could be fixed and than fix those things.  There are things in life what we experience as a problem, but in fact we can`t change it, so we have to accept. We cannot change other people, our co-workers  or family members. It is not possible for us to change the economic situation. What we can change is ourselves.

By being aware of these things and by practicing meditation we can get rid of the problems, not by solving them, but by accepting them.

 

 

Go forward Quotes

When we experience things what we don’t like, when we weren’t able to realize our goals, when we don’t own the things we deserve it is normal to become disappointing and cry. But staying in that mood for long won’t sort out anything. The only way to make your life better is to stand up and go forward.